Tuesday, January 5, 2016

Time to resolve!


Definition (as stated in Wikipedia): A New Year's resolution is a commitment that an individual makes to a project or the reforming of a habit, often a lifestyle change that is generally interpreted as advantageous. The name comes from the fact that these commitments normally go into effect on New Year's Day. Some examples include resolutions to donate to the poor more often, to become more assertive, or to become more environmentally responsible.

In the United States, popular goals include resolutions to:
  • IMPROVE HEALTH: lose weight, exercise more, eat better, drink less alcohol, quit smoking
  • IMPROVE FINANCES: get out of debt, save money
  • IMPROVE CAREER: get a better job
  • IMPROVE EDUCATION: improve grades, get a better education, learn something new (such as a foreign language or music)
  • IMPROVE ONE’S OWN PERSONALITY: become more organized, reduce stress, be less grumpy, manage time, be more independent, enjoy life more.
  • SPEND MORE TIME WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS- make and maintain social connections, meet a partner, etc.
  • TAKE A TRIP
  • VOLUNTEER to help others
Are you in the habit of making resolutions? Do you believe in them? Do you fulfil them or belong to the group of people who forget about such good intentions?   If so, think about some that could apply to the following categories.

- Studying
- Exercise
Money
- Habits
New interests/ learning new things
- Family and friends
Shopping
My personality
- Other _____________________ 

Mine include focusing more on things I really want to do (and forget about less importantones), focusing more on people I want to be with/close to( and forget about less important ones), managing my finances better (i.e.: any good) and, well, becoming a better person, I guess.

The problem with making resolutions is that, generally, people do not keep and accomplish them in the end. The reason, I believe is that these resolutions are often  too vague, general, imprecise and ambiguous (not necessarily too ambitious, though), like "I want to lead a healthier life" or "I want to save more money", "I'm going to exercise more", "I want to change my personality for the better", "I want to spend more time with family and friends", etc. The lack of focus leads to poor planning, disinterest, apathy and finally failure in achieving our New Year's purposes.
The solution, in my view, has to do with setting for more specific goals, which can be realized with exact, definite actions; for instance "I'm going to try to avoid cravings as much as possible" or "I'm not going to pay commissions when using ATMs", "I'm going to take down my Instagram account as I'm almost 40 and it doesn't make sense uploading photos of myself acting as an adolescent, and  who nobody gives a damn about anyway" or "I'm going to join this cool hiking group a friend told me about" are more likely to finally come into being than those in the paragraph above.
Many will dismiss resolutions as another stupid exercise in self-pity and directionless post-Christmas introspection, since for the umpteenth time and after all the excesses of the Nativity period, we suddenly feel guilty and realize how incomplete our existence is.
Well, I personally believe that along our lives we have many opportunities to become a better version of ourselves, improve and be a better company for the people around us and, in the end, lead happier lives. And, if you ask me, it's never too late to change!
What's your take on this issue?

23 comments:

  1. I’ve always been a New Year’s resolution person, so resolution’s lists ring a bell.
    Like a really optimistic person, every January I’m able to see three hundred and sixty-five new opportunities are to become a better person, or to improve a particular habit or part of me I don’t like it.
    My resolutions usually focus on my health, improving my own personality or spending more time with family and close friends; whereas, money or my career are less important for me. But, in this unsual year in which I made a debut as a mom, I wish my husband would let me having a five-minute break peacefully (that is not only a resolution, but also a request). Even so, I don’t really think it could be possible. That’s my final take on this issue.

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    1. Great reflections, as usual, Carmen María. Just some corrections:
      "resolution lists" (without the genitive case)
      "... or to improve a particular habit of me I don't like" (without "it")

      Apart from that, impeccable write up!

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  2. Every year I try to improve my habits and start to do a lot of things, because I personally believe that the most important is look for motivations that I make me feel better.
    My purposes for this year are:
    - Make more happy my friends and my family.
    - Do exercise to try to feel better and don’t think about my illness.
    - Get that my partner stops smoking, but I think it is impossible.
    - Try to be more optimist.
    - And improve my English among other things.
    I could write thousands of things, but I resign myself to get these, because I have never fulfilled all my purposes.

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    1. Great one, Yolanda!
      Just a couple of corrections:
      "... the most important (thing)"
      "... look for motivations that make me feel better"
      "Make my friends and family happier"
      "Get my partner TO stop smoking..."

      Great one, nonetheless

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  3. I´m totally agree with Javi about that our resolutions mustn´t be imprecise and ambiguous, because in the end, you don´t usually fulfill any purpose. In my opinion, it´s essential to be clear about the goals you want to achieve and how to get them.
    My list of purposes is the following:
    - I want to spend more time with my partner and my son ( at least three afternoons every week).
    - Keep my fitness (work out threee o four times a week).
    - I´m going to pass this English course (to achieve this, I´ll watch three capthers of series in English each week and try to bring issues to date)
    I prefer bringing into focus few purposes and fulfill them that focus me on many ones and I don´t get anything.

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    1. Pretty great words and reasoning, Alberto.
      Just some observations:
      "I'm agree?????" never again, my friend! There is a sign on the wall in our class with Clint Eastwood aiming his gun and threatening to shoot if you dare to say "I'm agree!" Isn't that explicit enough? hahaha. "I totally agree with you" would be correct, instead.

      "I prefer bringing into focus few purposes and fulfill them than focus on many ones..." (not "focus me")
      Great one, nevertheless

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  5. Well here are my new year’ resolutions:

    1. Get in shape
    2. Become more confident and take some chances
    3. Earn more money
    4. Reduce stress
    5. Get more quality sleep
    6. Read more English
    7. Spend more time with the people that matter
    8. Get out of debt. I mean morgagge
    9. Volunteer and give more to charity
    10. Travel more and see the world
    11. Reinvent myself
    12. Becomo more romantic

    I think my resolutions are easy.

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    1. They might be easy, but there are a few!
      But I guess nothing can beat a strong self-determination!
      Good luck on them!

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  6. I confess that I am one of many who think that New Year´s resolution is not a serious thing.Mainly because meditation on matters of great concern should be performed every day without fail,not just in the end of every year.In my opinion there is surely nothing other than the single purpose of the present moment,this is my own daily aim.If I am fully able to understand and focus on the present moment I will not need to pursue anything else.
    On the other hand I absolutely agree with you on that while we are alive we will always stand a chance to change for the better.
    In reality,it does not exist a general purpose for one and all.Actually there are at least as many goals as people in the whole world,thus what is important for some,might be trivial for others and the other way round.
    However,personally I think that getting to know what one really wants to do without being under any kind of influence,is more important and at the same time more complicated than achieving one´s resolutions.

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    1. Great reflection, and flawless write up, Diego! Tried hard to find fault with any of the messages expressed here, but I simply cannot!

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  8. Hi classmates! Happy New Year!
    I also have resolutions to me every years a lot of good intentions to improve my life. But I don´t make my list on December ... I always do my list the last day of August, because I´m a teacher and from my point of view the years are school years.
    I had many resolutions, as:
    - Doing more sport.
    - Doing my tasks in time.
    - Eating healthy food.

    At the moment I'm fighting to fulfill it..

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    1. Great reflections, Noelia!
      Great write-up, too! (I would say "I also have resolutions FOR me every YEAR, though)

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  9. WRITTEN BY TATYANA ARNALDOS JURADO


    My New Year's Resolutions are:

    -IMPROVE HEALTH: Put on weight -5 kilos at least - I've always been very slim ,is my genetic,so I can eat all I want , in any amount and never get fat (don't hate me about that) , go on running twice a week, exercise the top of my body, especially shoulder and arms with any kind of martial art such as boxing, judo, karate, hapkido... I feel like thrash somebody hahaha- in front of my house there is a gym only do martial art and I'm jealous every time I pass in front of it and I see they thrash each other... hahaha must be so relaxing thrash somebody!

    -GET A JOB: -This desire already fulfilled - I have a mini-job!!!

    -IMPROVE EDUCATION: Get my B1, when I get my B1 (cross your finger for me) , I will start to improve my German., In English, being as fluent as Dany.

    -IMPROVE ONE'S OWN PERSONALITY: Reduce stress, BEING LESS PERFECTIONIST IN THE WAY I DO ALL THINGS, be less grumpy - I'm not a person too much grumpy, but I have to recognize that sometimes I see things which don't like to me and I simply I say them.

    -SPEND MORE TIME WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS: Especially with my triplets cousins + one more. They are my favourites ones.

    -TAKE A TRIP TO GERMANY:I would love to go back to see my hometown Nuremberg, especially in Christmas, visit my german family , eat typical german food, visit also Munich, Frankfurt and so on.

    -GO ON BEING ENVIRONMENTALLY RESPONSIBLE AND ALSO WITH THE ANIMALS : I mean recycle, using products not animal tested (cruelty free) I love animals, especially dogs, therefore doing volunteer work in some animal protective. In fact, I was already doing voluteer work in a animal protective but I had to given up because of terribly things I had to see.

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    1. Great one, Tatyana, as usual.
      About your resolutions, if you're trying to gain a couple of pounds, why not joining a gym and doing some weights? With your frame, you would tone your muscles easily. I guess that maybe lifting weights can get boring, though, so the martial arts option is a good one.
      About the other resolutions, they are kinda ambitious, yet concrete enough to be accomplished. Go for them!

      Now some feedback language-wise:

      "Don't hate me FOR that" (your generous genes)
      "Exercise my UPPER body" (that is, from your waist up)
      "I feel like THRASHING/BEATING UP somebody"
      "There's a gym where there are only martial arts classes"
      "It must be so relaxing TO thrash somebody"
      "I'm not a very/extremely grumpy person" (word order)
      "Things I don't like" (it doesn't make sense saying "to me")
      "They are my FAVOURITE ones" (Adjectives plural? Never ever!)
      German (with nationalities and languages, capital letter!)
      Doing VOLUNTARY work (volunteer is a verb)
      "In an Animal Welfare association"
      "But I had to GIVE up"

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  10. Well, I am in the habit of making New Year’s resolutions but it is true that while sometime I fulfil them during the year, on many other occasions I fail in the attempt. In fact, I have lost count of the number of times I have try to learn to control my emotions and not say swear words. Unfortunately, there is always difficult circumstances who drives me crazy and make me speak without thinking. However, nowadays since I have a baby learning to talk, I have achieved significant changes in my vocabulary. This support the conclusion that any attempt of change in my live must be accompanied by willingness and an experience associated.
    Furthermore, this is the first time I write about my New Year’s resolutions and because this could be other way to accomplish my goals, here I write them just in case:
    Study more English
    Spend more time with the people that matter
    Become more organized
    Learn to control my emotions

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    1. Great words and great intentions, Angel.
      Do you know what they say about good intentions? That the road to hell is paved with them.
      But in this case, and as you say, willingness and experience can make a huge difference, along with careful planning.
      I'm sure you'll get those, if you really want them!

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    1. Great, great one, Paula. Practically flawless write up I'd say!

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  12. I'm not very fond of a new year’s resolution list, but every year I do a year summary and I try to improve some little things. In my opinion a new year resolution list doesn’t have to be something hard in order to get your goal. It has to be something that makes you happier.
    In my New Year`s resolution list can`t miss:
    -Eating healthier
    -Travelling
    - Reducing Stress
    -Saving money
    Have a nice day!!

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  13. Hey guys!
    Well my new year's resolution in 2016 is pass my competitive exam as a teacher. If I get a position in my competitive exam, I'll a permanent job.
    Other new year's resolution is improve my english skills and pass all courses of languages school. English is necesary for my job.
    It's all that I want to say.

    Good bye guys

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  14. Hey guys!
    Well my new year's resolution in 2016 is pass my competitive exam as a teacher. If I get a position in my competitive exam, I'll a permanent job.
    Other new year's resolution is improve my english skills and pass all courses of languages school. English is necesary for my job.
    It's all that I want to say.

    Good bye guys

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